The Importance of Change

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As we go through life, change manifests in many forms. Change can take the form of minute details or complete transformation, and whether it is expected or not, massive or minuscule, it is what gives life its continuity. Without change, life would be constant and predictable.

That being said, change is never easy. If you’re anything like me, consistency and routine are at the core of a “comfort zone”. I am not one to jump willingly into new situations, but change has made such a feat easier.clock-650753_1280

For the past fourteen years, change in my life has been miniscule. Years passed, hobbies and interests changed, but some semblance of a routine always remained. In the summer of 2015 that change became significant and taught me a lot about life. All at once I was leaving my home, starting my first year of college, and living on my own for the first time. Now that I am one month into college life, I thought that I would share what I have learned about change over the past few months.

Change Creates a Blank Slate

Many people reach a point in their lives in which they feel as though they need a fresh start. This can range from changing up a daily routine to embracing wanderlust and traveling somewhere new. For many people, the years from kindergarten through their high school graduation are spent in the same place with the same people. While this sense of familiarity is comforting, it also inspires the desire for change. This change may not necessarily be complete re-invention, but it allows us to change what isn’t working. Whether this be a routine, a location, or an environment we are given the opportunity to start over and bring our life in a better direction.

Change Allows Us To Grow

Change is often synonymous with trying new things. While this is a daunting task, we broaden our horizons in the process. By trying new things, we continue to bring our life in a new direction and enhance the effects of change. Through this process we often kindle the fire of our dreams, and allow ourselves to escape from the ordinary. Though we may not succeed at all that we attempt, it is the journey that matters. Failure can spark resilience, or inspire a new path. Likewise, success can lead us to new beginnings and guide us on adventures that we never thought we would have.

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Change is Prominent in the Process of Self-Discovery

Every time significant change occurs, you are presented with the opportunity to assess where you want yourself to be. You can re-invent yourself with new appearances or ideals. While this does not happen every instance in which change occurs, it is often an element that is embraced a few times throughout life. For example, if you are someone like me who finds comfort in routine, you can establish a goal of putting yourself out there. While you may be desperate to return to your comfort zone right away, the more you try new things the easier and more enjoyable they become. Before you know it, you will be more confident about being put in new situations and the concept of change will not be as daunting.

Without change, we would be living perpetually consistent lives. We would never be able to fix what isn’t working or create a better life for ourselves. Even though change is often difficult, embrace it. After all, it is what puts the adventure in life. 🙂 What have you learned from change, I would love to hear in the comments!

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  • Diane DeBella

    Alyssa, this is beautifully written. As you have experienced tremendous change, so have I. What I have realized from your post is that we are navigating change together, and that I often learn as much–if not more–from my children than they learn from me.

    • Alyssa DeBella

      Thank you! We are navigating this change together, and it is wonderful to be able to record it through our own voices and stories with our blogs.

  • Freddie Robinson

    A professor from my undergrad wrote in a letter of recommendation for grad school that “she is not particularly verbally facile.” – Lovely prose, Alyssa, and not facile, nicely done! And I must say their is a hint of a style that reminds me of another wonderful writer, but I just can’t place it at the moment 🙂
    Interesting subjects, Change and Transformation. As you might imagine these processes are dear to me as my journey has taken me from uncommon extremes, from military service to collegiate classroom and white collar professional, from Protestant to Catholic, and from the experience of being a man to my experience now as a woman. While working in the Religious Studies focus area of my undergraduate degree I discovered what it is that makes our journey transformative; vulnerability. You described it as “putting yourself out there,” and you are exactly right. When you put yourself out there you make yourself vulnerable; you remove all that you were in order to allow yourself to be remade. By contrast, in monastic life, neophytes surrender all material possessions, including their hair and their clothing, this in order to cleanse themselves of the profane, which in many cases culminates with a spiritual bath. Of course we don’t have to shave our heads, change our wardrobes, and baptize ourselves in order to embrace change, but it is important to mark the beginning of our journeys, as you’ve done with your blog today. This cycle of change and transformation will repeat again again throughout your life, and as any dedicated neophyte and fellow traveler would do, we must prepare ourselves for the journey each time, because when we look back we want to be able to remember where and who we were in order to know and love where we’ve come and who we are now.

    • Alyssa DeBella

      Thank you for your wonderful comment, I am so glad that my writing and experiences are relatable and helping others. One of the main goals of my blog is to help at least one person with everything that I write. I love to write for myself, but more importantly I love to help others who may be experiencing similar things. This is the first time that I have gone through major change, and acknowledging it and writing about it allows me to reflect but also to look back later in life at where I have been, just like you mentioned. I think it is truly valuable to acknowledge and experience each moment of change in our lives for what they are and for where they lead us.